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Responsibility and Financial Literacy at Home


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Parenthood is such a privilege! I don’t think it’s possible for anyone else to be closer to your heart than your children (and your spouse, of course). With that privilege of being a parent, comes responsibilities – many of them, which include love, support, food, clothing, shelter, discipline, and so on.

Responsibility (noun): Taking care of your duty.

When we are blessed with things, it becomes our responsibility to provide continual care and maintenance. This applies to everything we acquire, but with this post, I would like to focus on the relationships of parent-child, family-home, and family-money.

Not only is parenthood a privilege with many responsibilities, but so is home ownership. Taking care of a home has its responsibilities as well, and even more so – a home with children. As parents we lead by example and teach our kids to help with household chores like cleaning their rooms, taking out trash, sweeping, clearing the table, etc. Those are life lessons that will follow children into their adulthood.

In my home my husband and I make sure chores are completed before some privileges. (It comes with battles just like everyone else’s home!) Sometimes, depending on the layout of the day and events, we help our children come up with a schedule to complete their chores and still have their pleasurable activities that allow for fun to come before work. The goal with this is to teach responsibility, self-discipline, and time management. It doesn’t work smoothly or perfectly every time, but it is preparing them for adulthood – if they like it or not.

Financial Literacy (concept): The skill sets needed to make smart financial decisions.

What about teaching financial responsibility? It is just as important. Along with chores, children need to be financially literate as well. Teach them to make smart decisions on spending and saving money. This could be as simple as teaching your kids to compare prices when shopping, letting them help clip coupons, and through allowances. All these instances allow for you and your child to start a dialogue about money-management. Also, understanding credit and credit card use is definitely a big topic that needs to be discussed and its foundation set in all households. My husband is great with this in our home!

Another big lesson in money-management (perhaps the biggest of all) comes from setting a budget for your family and involve your children in learning what will and will not fit into your budget. This is great for teaching decision-making skills, problem-solving, and determining what priorities are. You’ll be rewarded by teaching your children these values of responsibility and money management. The reward is raising responsible citizens.


Happy Father’s Day


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This weekend we honor fathers!  My children, my sisters, and I are excited to be honoring my husband, Danny Bland, and my father, Gene Thurman.  Both are such good men with big hearts and great impacts on a lot of lives.

My husband and father are and have been involved heavily in education in North Carolina on all levels.  I can say firsthand that they have truly affected the lives of so many students in this great state.  Happy Father’s Day to you both!

Anyway….how did it all start?  (Father’s Day, that is).  Well, I posted a blog last month about the origin of Mother’s Day so it’s only fitting to do the same for all the terrific fathers out there.

Father’s Day is every third Sunday in June and is a complement to Mother’s Day.  This day is set aside to glorify and honor fathers and paternal bonds.  The very first observance of Father’s Day took place in Fairmont, West Virginia on July 5, 1908.

It was organized by Mrs. Grace Golden Clayton, who wanted to celebrate the lives of the 210 fathers who had been lost in the Monongah Mining disaster several months earlier in Monongah, West Virginia, on December 6, 1907. It is possible that Clayton was influenced by the first celebration of Mother’s Day that same year, just a few miles away. Clayton chose the Sunday nearest to the birthday of her recently deceased father.  Unfortunately, the day was overshadowed by other events in the city, West Virginia did not officially register the holiday, and it was not celebrated again. Instead, credit for Father’s Day went to Sonora Dodd from Spokane, who invented independently her own celebration of Father’s Day just two years later, also influenced by Jarvis’ Mother’s Day.   However, Fairmont is now promoted as the “Home of the First Father’s Day Service”.

Please take time today to give reverence to all the fathers and father-figures in your life. Parenting is quite a challenging task and is by far the least recognized position you’ll ever have (if you become a parent).  Sometimes, we take those we love for granted and don’t speak often enough of our love, support, and gratitude.  Today, treat dads like the kings they are!  I know I will.  Thanks for reading.  🙂

Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day!


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In the United States, we celebrate Mother’s Day on the second Sunday in May.  It’s a day when mothers get lavished with presents and attention.  Families get together to honor their generations of moms.

I’m very excited about spending time with my children and family this Mother’s Day, May 8, 2011, not to do anything fancy, but just to enjoy the time with my children and family.  Watching them play and laugh is spiritual to me.  I’m honored that God chose me to carry out a very important mission called motherhood.  It’s not easy at all, though, but it’s worth it.

I’m very anxious and saddened too this year.  This will be my first Mother’s Day without my mother, Joyce Thurman, who died on July 19, 2010 and received her wings in Heaven.  She was a great mother and she loved children!  I miss her, but I know she’s watching over us every moment.  That gives me joy.

Anyway, I wanted to start this post to honor all the moms out there.  We do so much as mothers and expect so little.  We’re doctors, preachers, counselors, tutors, judges, chauffeurs, chefs, friends, teachers, stylists, cheerleaders, maids, and the list goes on.  We do what we do each day, knowing that the reward is unconditional love and raising intelligent, honorable, and God-fearing young men and women.

Moving on…  I would like to talk about who originated the idea of Mother’s Day in the United States.   It was Anna Jarvis, who loved her mother, Mrs. Ann Maria Reeves Jarvis, very much.  Ann Maria devoted much of her life as a humanitarian to improve sanitary and health conditions to so many people over several states.  However, Ann died in 1905 when Anna was only 41 years old.  Anna adored her mother’s mission and life’s work.

After her mother’s death, Anna never married, and ended up caring for her blind sister, Ellsinore.  She missed her mother terribly and thought that more people should honor their mothers while they’re still alive.  Anna wanted a day devoted to mothers to increase respect, love, and strengthen family bonds.  Isn’t that wonderful how she revered her mother and mothers everywhere?  If more people were that kind and caring as this family, the world would be a much better place.

Mothers  (fathers too) are very special people.  As a mother of three lovely, charismatic children (Lorin, Logan, and Jonathan), I changed greatly as a person.  I saw life through a different filter.  I also gained a greater respect for my belated mother (way before she died) and the impact that she had on my life and the lives of so many others.  She was a great educator in Maryland and North Carolina and impacted the lives of so many children.  Personally, I was a piece of work as a child.  I remember calling my mom several times during adulthood, begging for her forgiveness for some of my childhood days.  (It’s true!)  Anyway, may God bless and watch over all the mothers out there and continue to give us the wisdom that we need to rear our children, run our households, and respect our husbands.  Amen.  Happy Mother’s Day!

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