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Always “Room” at Home for Love


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It’s true –  home is where the heart is. It’s a place where we retire for the evening after a long day of work or school. It’s a place that’s safe, comfortable, and familiar. It also serves the purpose of providing a lifestyle and within its walls you’ll find love and purpose in each room.  One could say that home ownership is a sensible investment as it provides many opportunities to come together as a family.

Welcome Home

The Foyer.  We greet our loved ones at the door with a smile.  Welcome home from your day – from school, work, or that long list of errands.  Come inside, take a load off, hang your jacket here on this stand, and leave the worries of the world behind. Here – all the comforts of home await you and the rest of the world – behind you.

“Let us always meet each other with love, for the smile is the beginning of love.” ~Mother Teresa

Let’s Eat and Be Merry

The Kitchen. Known as the hearth of the home, perhaps the kitchen is most important.  At the kitchen table, we gather our families together for three meals per day.  And it’s during that time, we get to know one another a little better.  We connect as a family by sharing our goals for the day or events that have transpired during our meanderings away from home.  Not only do we share great meals, but we share stories that add to our character.

“A meal is about civilizing children. It’s about teaching them to be a member of their culture.” ~Robin Fox, Anthropologist, Rutgers University

It’s Family Time

The Family Room.  Family movie nights, board games, homework time, and the big football game can bring parents and children together for much-needed quality time.  Most of my family’s time here is spent doing homework and watching movies.  It has good lighting, offers a variety of  books and magazines, and provides comfortable seating.   This room has been blessed with lots of laughter, tears, memories, and good lessons that will follow us far into our futures.

“Youth who communicate, do activities and have close relationships with their parents are less likely to engage in violence.” ~Chris Knoester, Sociology, Ohio State University

Sweet Dreams

The Bedrooms.  It’s the end of the day!  But before the day quickly fades, we read bedtime stories, say nightly prayers, remove the boogie man from the closet, and tuck our children in for the evening.  This time is perhaps the perfect time to reflect on your child’s day and soothe away their fears of tomorrow.

  “Families who tell stories report higher levels of happiness, closeness and adaptability.” ~Jody Kellas, Ph.D, Family Communications, University of Nebraska-Lincoln

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Responsibility and Financial Literacy at Home


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Parenthood is such a privilege! I don’t think it’s possible for anyone else to be closer to your heart than your children (and your spouse, of course). With that privilege of being a parent, comes responsibilities – many of them, which include love, support, food, clothing, shelter, discipline, and so on.

Responsibility (noun): Taking care of your duty.

When we are blessed with things, it becomes our responsibility to provide continual care and maintenance. This applies to everything we acquire, but with this post, I would like to focus on the relationships of parent-child, family-home, and family-money.

Not only is parenthood a privilege with many responsibilities, but so is home ownership. Taking care of a home has its responsibilities as well, and even more so – a home with children. As parents we lead by example and teach our kids to help with household chores like cleaning their rooms, taking out trash, sweeping, clearing the table, etc. Those are life lessons that will follow children into their adulthood.

In my home my husband and I make sure chores are completed before some privileges. (It comes with battles just like everyone else’s home!) Sometimes, depending on the layout of the day and events, we help our children come up with a schedule to complete their chores and still have their pleasurable activities that allow for fun to come before work. The goal with this is to teach responsibility, self-discipline, and time management. It doesn’t work smoothly or perfectly every time, but it is preparing them for adulthood – if they like it or not.

Financial Literacy (concept): The skill sets needed to make smart financial decisions.

What about teaching financial responsibility? It is just as important. Along with chores, children need to be financially literate as well. Teach them to make smart decisions on spending and saving money. This could be as simple as teaching your kids to compare prices when shopping, letting them help clip coupons, and through allowances. All these instances allow for you and your child to start a dialogue about money-management. Also, understanding credit and credit card use is definitely a big topic that needs to be discussed and its foundation set in all households. My husband is great with this in our home!

Another big lesson in money-management (perhaps the biggest of all) comes from setting a budget for your family and involve your children in learning what will and will not fit into your budget. This is great for teaching decision-making skills, problem-solving, and determining what priorities are. You’ll be rewarded by teaching your children these values of responsibility and money management. The reward is raising responsible citizens.


Home Ownership Enriches Family


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As a mother of 3 beautiful and talented children, I’m always looking for ways to enrich and foster the lives of my children and to enlighten myself as a parent so I’m always researching and reading. During my reading time I ran across some information about children and home ownership that I wanted to share since I am a mother, real estate agent, and homeowner.

While this information isn’t necessarily my personal opinion, I found it interesting to share so take from it what you will. I believe that whether you rent, own, or live in a box, great parenting and communications skills (and other factors) greatly affect our children’s future as well. However, when you have to decide whether or not which route to take – renting or owning – consider the enrichment of home ownership.

There are so many positive attributes that home ownership has on family, especially children. Not only does a home provide safety, security, and meets our basic need of shelter, but studies (one in particular by Donald Haurin – Retired Research Scientist from Ohio State University) show that home ownership increases the likelihood of children obtaining higher levels of education, improved self-esteem and confidence, and lower teen pregnancy rates.

The living environment of the home played a key factor in this conclusion. The results were measured by a survey given to a group of parents. Homes usually have better quality lighting, more educational materials available (a variety of magazines and books), structured family activities, a well-organized play room, a study, etc. Not only did these improved benefits affect children, but also homeowners have more stability and live in homes longer than rentals or other living arrangements. This stability allows for children to stay in the same schools longer and to build strong community relationships.

BOTTOM LINE

Owning your own home (coupled with other factors) adds value to your family and the future of your children. Choose wisely when thinking about whether buying or renting is the best option. It’s a fact that no one knows your situation better than you. No matter where you live (if you’re unable to own a home), make sure your living environment secures and enriches the child.


Happy Father’s Day


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This weekend we honor fathers!  My children, my sisters, and I are excited to be honoring my husband, Danny Bland, and my father, Gene Thurman.  Both are such good men with big hearts and great impacts on a lot of lives.

My husband and father are and have been involved heavily in education in North Carolina on all levels.  I can say firsthand that they have truly affected the lives of so many students in this great state.  Happy Father’s Day to you both!

Anyway….how did it all start?  (Father’s Day, that is).  Well, I posted a blog last month about the origin of Mother’s Day so it’s only fitting to do the same for all the terrific fathers out there.

Father’s Day is every third Sunday in June and is a complement to Mother’s Day.  This day is set aside to glorify and honor fathers and paternal bonds.  The very first observance of Father’s Day took place in Fairmont, West Virginia on July 5, 1908.

It was organized by Mrs. Grace Golden Clayton, who wanted to celebrate the lives of the 210 fathers who had been lost in the Monongah Mining disaster several months earlier in Monongah, West Virginia, on December 6, 1907. It is possible that Clayton was influenced by the first celebration of Mother’s Day that same year, just a few miles away. Clayton chose the Sunday nearest to the birthday of her recently deceased father.  Unfortunately, the day was overshadowed by other events in the city, West Virginia did not officially register the holiday, and it was not celebrated again. Instead, credit for Father’s Day went to Sonora Dodd from Spokane, who invented independently her own celebration of Father’s Day just two years later, also influenced by Jarvis’ Mother’s Day.   However, Fairmont is now promoted as the “Home of the First Father’s Day Service”.

Please take time today to give reverence to all the fathers and father-figures in your life. Parenting is quite a challenging task and is by far the least recognized position you’ll ever have (if you become a parent).  Sometimes, we take those we love for granted and don’t speak often enough of our love, support, and gratitude.  Today, treat dads like the kings they are!  I know I will.  Thanks for reading.  🙂

Happy Father’s Day!


Happy Memorial Day 2011


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Happy Memorial Day America!

Observed on the last Monday in May, Memorial Day in the United States is a day that America honors soldiers who died while in military service.

To all of the families of fallen soldiers, we support you and honor you.  Prayers are sent your way today and always.  Your family member is a hero and will live on as such in Heaven.

“With the tears a Land hath shed
Their graves should ever be green.”
~Thomas Bailey Aldrich

GOD BLESS AMERICA!


Happy Mother’s Day!


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In the United States, we celebrate Mother’s Day on the second Sunday in May.  It’s a day when mothers get lavished with presents and attention.  Families get together to honor their generations of moms.

I’m very excited about spending time with my children and family this Mother’s Day, May 8, 2011, not to do anything fancy, but just to enjoy the time with my children and family.  Watching them play and laugh is spiritual to me.  I’m honored that God chose me to carry out a very important mission called motherhood.  It’s not easy at all, though, but it’s worth it.

I’m very anxious and saddened too this year.  This will be my first Mother’s Day without my mother, Joyce Thurman, who died on July 19, 2010 and received her wings in Heaven.  She was a great mother and she loved children!  I miss her, but I know she’s watching over us every moment.  That gives me joy.

Anyway, I wanted to start this post to honor all the moms out there.  We do so much as mothers and expect so little.  We’re doctors, preachers, counselors, tutors, judges, chauffeurs, chefs, friends, teachers, stylists, cheerleaders, maids, and the list goes on.  We do what we do each day, knowing that the reward is unconditional love and raising intelligent, honorable, and God-fearing young men and women.

Moving on…  I would like to talk about who originated the idea of Mother’s Day in the United States.   It was Anna Jarvis, who loved her mother, Mrs. Ann Maria Reeves Jarvis, very much.  Ann Maria devoted much of her life as a humanitarian to improve sanitary and health conditions to so many people over several states.  However, Ann died in 1905 when Anna was only 41 years old.  Anna adored her mother’s mission and life’s work.

After her mother’s death, Anna never married, and ended up caring for her blind sister, Ellsinore.  She missed her mother terribly and thought that more people should honor their mothers while they’re still alive.  Anna wanted a day devoted to mothers to increase respect, love, and strengthen family bonds.  Isn’t that wonderful how she revered her mother and mothers everywhere?  If more people were that kind and caring as this family, the world would be a much better place.

Mothers  (fathers too) are very special people.  As a mother of three lovely, charismatic children (Lorin, Logan, and Jonathan), I changed greatly as a person.  I saw life through a different filter.  I also gained a greater respect for my belated mother (way before she died) and the impact that she had on my life and the lives of so many others.  She was a great educator in Maryland and North Carolina and impacted the lives of so many children.  Personally, I was a piece of work as a child.  I remember calling my mom several times during adulthood, begging for her forgiveness for some of my childhood days.  (It’s true!)  Anyway, may God bless and watch over all the mothers out there and continue to give us the wisdom that we need to rear our children, run our households, and respect our husbands.  Amen.  Happy Mother’s Day!


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