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Always “Room” at Home for Love


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It’s true –  home is where the heart is. It’s a place where we retire for the evening after a long day of work or school. It’s a place that’s safe, comfortable, and familiar. It also serves the purpose of providing a lifestyle and within its walls you’ll find love and purpose in each room.  One could say that home ownership is a sensible investment as it provides many opportunities to come together as a family.

Welcome Home

The Foyer.  We greet our loved ones at the door with a smile.  Welcome home from your day – from school, work, or that long list of errands.  Come inside, take a load off, hang your jacket here on this stand, and leave the worries of the world behind. Here – all the comforts of home await you and the rest of the world – behind you.

“Let us always meet each other with love, for the smile is the beginning of love.” ~Mother Teresa

Let’s Eat and Be Merry

The Kitchen. Known as the hearth of the home, perhaps the kitchen is most important.  At the kitchen table, we gather our families together for three meals per day.  And it’s during that time, we get to know one another a little better.  We connect as a family by sharing our goals for the day or events that have transpired during our meanderings away from home.  Not only do we share great meals, but we share stories that add to our character.

“A meal is about civilizing children. It’s about teaching them to be a member of their culture.” ~Robin Fox, Anthropologist, Rutgers University

It’s Family Time

The Family Room.  Family movie nights, board games, homework time, and the big football game can bring parents and children together for much-needed quality time.  Most of my family’s time here is spent doing homework and watching movies.  It has good lighting, offers a variety of  books and magazines, and provides comfortable seating.   This room has been blessed with lots of laughter, tears, memories, and good lessons that will follow us far into our futures.

“Youth who communicate, do activities and have close relationships with their parents are less likely to engage in violence.” ~Chris Knoester, Sociology, Ohio State University

Sweet Dreams

The Bedrooms.  It’s the end of the day!  But before the day quickly fades, we read bedtime stories, say nightly prayers, remove the boogie man from the closet, and tuck our children in for the evening.  This time is perhaps the perfect time to reflect on your child’s day and soothe away their fears of tomorrow.

  “Families who tell stories report higher levels of happiness, closeness and adaptability.” ~Jody Kellas, Ph.D, Family Communications, University of Nebraska-Lincoln

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Responsibility and Financial Literacy at Home


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Parenthood is such a privilege! I don’t think it’s possible for anyone else to be closer to your heart than your children (and your spouse, of course). With that privilege of being a parent, comes responsibilities – many of them, which include love, support, food, clothing, shelter, discipline, and so on.

Responsibility (noun): Taking care of your duty.

When we are blessed with things, it becomes our responsibility to provide continual care and maintenance. This applies to everything we acquire, but with this post, I would like to focus on the relationships of parent-child, family-home, and family-money.

Not only is parenthood a privilege with many responsibilities, but so is home ownership. Taking care of a home has its responsibilities as well, and even more so – a home with children. As parents we lead by example and teach our kids to help with household chores like cleaning their rooms, taking out trash, sweeping, clearing the table, etc. Those are life lessons that will follow children into their adulthood.

In my home my husband and I make sure chores are completed before some privileges. (It comes with battles just like everyone else’s home!) Sometimes, depending on the layout of the day and events, we help our children come up with a schedule to complete their chores and still have their pleasurable activities that allow for fun to come before work. The goal with this is to teach responsibility, self-discipline, and time management. It doesn’t work smoothly or perfectly every time, but it is preparing them for adulthood – if they like it or not.

Financial Literacy (concept): The skill sets needed to make smart financial decisions.

What about teaching financial responsibility? It is just as important. Along with chores, children need to be financially literate as well. Teach them to make smart decisions on spending and saving money. This could be as simple as teaching your kids to compare prices when shopping, letting them help clip coupons, and through allowances. All these instances allow for you and your child to start a dialogue about money-management. Also, understanding credit and credit card use is definitely a big topic that needs to be discussed and its foundation set in all households. My husband is great with this in our home!

Another big lesson in money-management (perhaps the biggest of all) comes from setting a budget for your family and involve your children in learning what will and will not fit into your budget. This is great for teaching decision-making skills, problem-solving, and determining what priorities are. You’ll be rewarded by teaching your children these values of responsibility and money management. The reward is raising responsible citizens.


Home Ownership Enriches Family


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As a mother of 3 beautiful and talented children, I’m always looking for ways to enrich and foster the lives of my children and to enlighten myself as a parent so I’m always researching and reading. During my reading time I ran across some information about children and home ownership that I wanted to share since I am a mother, real estate agent, and homeowner.

While this information isn’t necessarily my personal opinion, I found it interesting to share so take from it what you will. I believe that whether you rent, own, or live in a box, great parenting and communications skills (and other factors) greatly affect our children’s future as well. However, when you have to decide whether or not which route to take – renting or owning – consider the enrichment of home ownership.

There are so many positive attributes that home ownership has on family, especially children. Not only does a home provide safety, security, and meets our basic need of shelter, but studies (one in particular by Donald Haurin – Retired Research Scientist from Ohio State University) show that home ownership increases the likelihood of children obtaining higher levels of education, improved self-esteem and confidence, and lower teen pregnancy rates.

The living environment of the home played a key factor in this conclusion. The results were measured by a survey given to a group of parents. Homes usually have better quality lighting, more educational materials available (a variety of magazines and books), structured family activities, a well-organized play room, a study, etc. Not only did these improved benefits affect children, but also homeowners have more stability and live in homes longer than rentals or other living arrangements. This stability allows for children to stay in the same schools longer and to build strong community relationships.

BOTTOM LINE

Owning your own home (coupled with other factors) adds value to your family and the future of your children. Choose wisely when thinking about whether buying or renting is the best option. It’s a fact that no one knows your situation better than you. No matter where you live (if you’re unable to own a home), make sure your living environment secures and enriches the child.


Tornadoes in the Carolinas


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For the past couple weeks, we’ve been dealing with devastating tornadoes and strong storms.  Our state is no stranger to hurricanes; however, these tornadoes,  in my opinion, are by far nail biters to say the very least!

Living in the coastal region of the state half of my life, I’ve road out some terrible, destructive hurricanes, which I always thought was the end of the world (as a child).

I must say, however, with these storm and tornado outbreaks lately, I have been pretty shaken by them. I’m sure my friends and neighbors are as well.  My household didn’t get very much sleep last evening.  Stress and anxiety levels were high.

It broke my heart this morning to see my middle child’s fear and anxiety.  She definitely displayed physical symptoms of distress.   Even though I had my own on the inside,  I encouraged her that all would be okay because we prayed and we are strong.

Certainly protect yourselves and your homes from the threat of violent weather.  Get into an interior room or closet with pillows and blankets (mattresses, if possible).  If you have a basement, that’s the very best place to be.

Please, please, as you go through these passing storms, take time out to pray and please check on the children‘s needs first.  You can always rebuild, if it comes to that, but as a parent, my children’s emotional state is far more important.

Through it all, North Carolina is an awesome place to live. No matter where you are, there’s always going to be natural disasters. Take care of your families and self.  I’ve talked to people all over since the terrible tornadoes we had a couple weekends ago, and stress levels are very high.

I wish everyone comfort and peace and restful nights. Thanks for reading my thoughts.


Storms? What about the kids…


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Natural Disasters Can Cause Anxiety in Children

A little over a week ago, terrible tornadoes hit all over the state of North Carolina.  Many of them affected the Triangle area, even my very own neighborhood.  Friends and family were displaced, lost homes, had minor to major damage, but most of all, in my opinion, the greatest impact was on the children in each household.

Where am I going with this?  Know this quote? “A house is built with boards and beams; a home is made with love and dreams.”  Well, home ownership is the American dream, and we buy with the intent to stay in our home for a very long time with our loved ones ~ our family, our children.  Sometimes, natural disasters, just like the ones we had in our area a week ago, affect our home, but can be traumatic to those we love.

I’m a mother of three children, 2 girls (Lorin and Logan) and a boy (Jonathan), all under the age 12.  Naturally, in my household just the mention of the word “storm” sends them into a frenzy.  They get clingy, nervous, and very anxious.  Usually, two of them (if not all) end up in my bed. Like I said earlier, when a storm is mentioned on the news, my middle girl becomes a nervous wreck.  “Is it coming here?  When?  Watch or warning?  Lightning or just rain?”  We try our very best to distract her with games and chit chat, but at the same time, remind her of the noises she may hear.  That helps her a lot!

What about when you can’t prepare your family for a tornado or storm? You can help your children through the emotional distresses after natural disasters by remaining as calm as possible and reassuring them that everything will be alright.  Kinda hard to do, I know!  We were hit too, but, fortunately, we were spared from damage to our home.  However, it’s a day my kids and husband will never, ever forget.  I won’t either!!  The sounds, the wind, the flying debris, the pressure from the wind was terrifying!

In the confusion and frustration of repairing and rebuilding, please remember to pay attention to distresses in your kids as well.  Some signs to look for include thumb-sucking, bed-wetting, nightmares,  fear of the dark, loss of appetite, and so on.  As parents, by nature we put our children first, but please don’t forget about yourself and seek the support you need.

That’s all for this blog.  I truly hope that you’ve found it helpful.  Thanks for your support of our future ~ our children.


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